LIFE PURPOSE & CAREER
How to Discover Your Life Purpose
Marianne Strait, Certified Life Coach
What is “Life Purpose”?
Study literature for the past several thousand years, and you see that, throughout time, man asks himself – “Why am I here?” or “What have I been put on this Earth to do?”
Now we ask the same questions as “What is my Life’s Purpose?”
For some, the answer comes easily. They seem to be born knowing exactly what they want – and are meant – to do.
Other struggle to find the answer. Some, sadly, for most -if not all- of their lives.
There is another group, too, who, while they instinctively “know” what they are here to do, for one reason or another, they aren’t doing it.
The search is on….
If you’re still not sure what your life purpose is, don’t worry!
You’re Not Alone!
When you think about your “LIfe Purpose” it can feel ominous and overwhelming.
It sounds SO BIG. So final. If you’re anything like me, it can even feel “limiting”… until you really understand and pinpoint exactly what your life purpose is.
Then it’s like “magic” and everything makes perfect sense.
“The two most important days in your life are the day you were born, and the day you find out why”
You see, your life’s purpose is not a “thing” or an “action”.
For example, I used to think my life purpose was to be a writer. Writing has always been a passion of mine, and still is, but it’s NOT my true life purpose.
It’s a TOOL I use to express my life purpose.
I discovered my life purpose when I healed of emotional trauma… I was so excited by my results that something, no everything, inside of me pulsed and shivered. In that moment I knew that my purpose in life was to help others over come the negative environments, self doubt and limitation they were experiencing, and create mindset shifts that help them jump start their lives.
As soon as I realized that, I looked back on my life and saw that it was the one thing I had been doing all along. Even in elementary school! Back then I helped friends who were in abusive families, who struggled in school. I had a way of helping them to see and appreciate their own strength, and discover their power. I helped them create mindset shifts from being “not good enough” for mom and dad to being “Good Enough” for themselves. They weren’t settling for less, they were seeing their value for the first time.
When you are looking for your life purpose, it’s important to keep in mind what YOU want. Not what someone else wants for you.
It would have been very easy for me to want my children to be writers, or salesmen, because both are very familiar to me.
I have friends who feel “trapped” in their family business, expected to play roles that are not at all in line with who they are.
So, as you search, ask yourself – “Who do I want THIS for?” and if the answer is not for “YOU” then please looking!
What do I love to do?
Look for clues in those things that currently make you feel excited and alive.
- What gets me so focused and happy that time flies when I am doing it?
- What captures my attention in such a way that nothing else matters?
- What would I give up dinner for, if it meant I had to stop doing it?
- Who do I admire, and why?
What did I love as a child?
Explore your childhood dreams for they contain key insights into your purpose.
- What did I “Pretend I was” when I was a child?
- What did I love to study – and out – of school?
- How did I interact with others?
- Who did I admire as a child – and why?
What don’t I like to do?
Examine those things that you don’t like. Knowing what you don’t want can help you narrow down what you do want!
- What do I avoid doing at all costs?
- What do I like least about my job?
- What do I see others doing that I don’t ever want to do?
- Who am I glad that I am nothing like? – and why
Take your time. Get to know yourself, your likes, your dislikes and your values.
When you get to your real “life purpose” you’ll instinctively know. You’ll feel it. It will be like the lights turned on!
Then you’ll look back at your life and see just how you have, in some way, been doing this all along…
Now it’s time to make it the central focus of your life.